Showing posts with label grow. Show all posts
Showing posts with label grow. Show all posts

Thursday, 4 June 2015

Experience ~ A Teacher

He who tiptoes cannot stand 
He who strides cannot walk
He who sees only himself is not enlightened 
He who is self- righteous is not notable 
He who boasts about himself will have no merit 
He who praises himself will have no improvement
I truly believe that we just don't need knowledge, but also wisdom, and wisdom comes with experience. My experience of spending time at VYF NGO has taught me so much; it has made me realize the things I do and do not have. Sharing my knowledge and a little wisdom that I have makes me happy. 

People are usually selfish to share their things, but knowledge and wisdom are two of those things which we can share with others  and they won't reduce within us, we don't lose out on anything in fact gain the joy of sharing. 

Every child there has a different story, they have so little yet they don't complain whereas most of us with so much cry about little things. There is so much to learn from these children, each child has so many stories to share which makes us aware of the different shades life can show us.

The whole world can see the beautiful as the beautiful only because of the ugly.
The whole world can recognize the good as the good only because of the bad.
Something and nothing create each other.
The difficult and the easy complement each other.
The long and the short define each other.
The high and the low counterbalance each other.
Before and After follow each other.


 

Disha Kapadia is in TYBA studying in Mumbai's Mithibai college. She is currently teaching Mandarin a Chinese language. Her hobbies are dancing, music and creative art. She wishes to become an industrialist, and hopes to create  the first Indian industry which is the richest in the world. She wants all the people who think women can not reach that stage, realize they can. She strongly opposes the discrimination between men and women,and hopes that one day they will be treated equally.

Saturday, 25 April 2015

Competition ~ Not a “Necessary Evil”

As a rookie mechanical engineer, Radhika enjoyed every minute of her two-year MBA programme. The only flaw was the apparently relentless competition in the class full of bright managers-to-be. Five years later and working as a Senior Manager in a large and dynamic engineering firm, she realises the situation is far worse – stress due to peer group comparisons is on the rise and is affecting productivity.

Competition is frequently treated as a necessary evil. Sometimes, the approach swings to the other extreme, with a highly aggressive approach with one’s peers.

Healthy handling of competition - need for acquiring this “Life skill”: 
Usual approaches towards competition can have the following consequences:  
  • Insecurity-driven choices, leading to low job satisfaction
  • Low team spirit, decreased co-operation
  • Low individual and group productivity due to the above
  • Stress with its consequent psychological and physical ailments
  • High turnover of skilled manpower
How can we then improve things?

Running in the “rat race” without becoming a rat:

Experts in holistic living say that competition is unnecessary and wasteful. The following are four useful concepts:
  • Recognize your uniqueness
Competition presupposes sameness of people whereas in reality, every inhabitant of this planet is unique. One needs to ask: “What is it that makes me refreshingly different from
others?” The answer to this question can then be used as a tool in one’s work, for useful self-differentiation. Tools such as the Johari window, the SWOT (Strength- Weakness- Opportunity- Threat) analysis and mindful journal writing are of help in discovering one’s unique traits, skills and talents.  The focus thus shifts from “Being a part of a herd and hence competing with others” mentality to “Effectively using one’s unique strengths”.
  • Re-assess your goals in the light of the above
It is critical to periodically re-assess one’s goals, in the light of one’s strengths. Else, one may persist in working along avenues that yield sub-optimal results – not because one is not working hard enough but because the task is not aligned with one’s own inclinations and abilities.

For example, a very senior executive working with a nationalised bank has for long nursed dreams of becoming the chairman of the bank. He is also aware that he is very high on technical skills, such as economic analysis and forecasting, but not equally strong at “people skills”. This awareness, coupled with the realization of the duties entailed by the post of chairman, might make him reconsider his goal. Would he then be better placed elsewhere, say, as a special advisor to an institution like the World Bank, where his strong analytical
skills and knowledge of macro-economics would make him an invaluable asset? This analysis might lead to mutually satisfying outcomes for the nationalised bank, the World Bank, and the senior executive. The stress that accompanies the “compete and fight for it” syndrome vanishes, as does the frustration and subsequent lowering of morale that might have emerged if the executive had persisted in working towards the chairman’s post and not succeeded.
  • Focus on efforts alone
Competition sometimes arises from a misguided sense of purpose, a fear-propelled need to constantly “look over one’s shoulder” to see what the others are doing. It helps to realize that the only thing one can truly control is one’s own efforts – not the environment, one’s colleagues or bosses, or the state of the economy. Hence one could:

a) Plan one’s desired outcome after carefully considering possible external variables.
b) Next, focus exclusively on one’s efforts .
 
One asks, “Am I doing the very best that I can?” Thus competing with others gives way to competing with oneself; the challenge is to stretch one’s intellectual, emotional and other capacities to do full justice to the task on hand, dynamic and unpredictable external circumstances notwithstanding.
  • Keep the “Big picture” in mind
It helps to place the seemingly all-important presentation, project or promotion against the backdrop of life. Taking a long-term perspective before zooming into the short-term details helps to fix appropriate priorities. This weeds out unnecessary competition and the misleading “do or die” attitude that sometimes leads executives to unproductive choices.

For example, a young sales manager may be tempted to inflate his sales figures in order to go one-up on his colleague. But an understanding of the price of such an approach, legally and ethically, might help him choose more appropriate methods for bolstering sales. In the latter approach, competition becomes irrelevant; focus shifts to “Does this add up to the person I am / want to be?”

To conclude:
Competing against others, while offering the same skills as others are offering, is a choice with limited application. Other choices include complementing skills and talents (win-win versus win-lose), and constantly competing with oneself, to give the best of oneself to the task on hand. The intelligent manager may well consider stocking his basket of skills with all the above choices, to be used judiciously, as circumstances demand.

Written by: Piya Mukherjee, Director – VES Leadership Academy and Research Centre, Corporate Trainer and Life Skills Coach.


Piya Mukherjee, MMS-Fin from NMIMS, started a career in investment banking but moved, after a few years, to corporate training and teaching MBA students. For close to 18 years now, she has been working in the areas of business ethics, human values, Vedanta, life-skills and cross-cultural sensitization, with b-schools such as JBIMS, SIMSR, SP Jain (Dubai and Singapore), NMIMS and VESIMSR.
She is the founder-Director of VES Leadership Academy and Research Centre (VESLARC) since 2010.Her corporate training clients include diverse organizations such as L&T, TCS, RBI, Taj Hotels, Trident Hotels and BPCL. A contributor to the Speaking Tree supplement to the Times of India, Piya is deeply passionate about sharing everyday tips that help us apply Vedantic principles in our lives. In this article, recently carried by Business Line newspaper, she debunks the myth that competition with others is a necessary evil in our lives. Instead, she says, focus on discovering your own uniqueness and polishing that, for productivity, success and joy.









Monday, 6 April 2015

A WORD OF GRATITUDE

Hi everyone!

It’s extremely overwhelming as a volunteer to have a site where we can post our thoughts and our ideas. I am very grateful to the Vivekananda Youth Forum for considering and giving equal importance to the growth of their volunteers. Vivekananda Youth Forum has been a life changing experience.  It has not only helped me to widen my horizons but has helped me to serve my society in a better way. It has given me a lot of opportunities to interact with different kinds of people and has helped us to learn and evolve as a better person. While volunteering at Vivekananda Youth Forum I have learnt that each and every individual has the power and capacity to bring a change provided he or she has the will to do so. I’ve learnt that we must transform our obstacles into opportunities because there is nothing impossible or unachievable in life. It requires compassion and a vision along with the willpower and dedication for one to succeed in life. I would like to quote one of Swami Vivekananda Ji’s quotes “Arise! Awake! And stop not until the goal is achieved”.

I was introduced to Vivekananda Youth Forum through a couple of my friends who are a part of the NSS unit of Mithibai college. I was an ordinary student of Mithibai College who’s willing to pursue psychology, however, after coming in contact with Vivekananda Youth Forum I realised that none of us are ordinary. Each one of us is special and blessed; it’s just that we have been blessed in different ways and we must appreciate our uniqueness and our blessings.  I am grateful to my friends for introducing me to such an outstanding organisation where we not only educate children but also spread smiles on hundreds of faces through our work. I have always enjoyed interacting with kids as this interaction has given me immense amount of satisfaction. I always wanted to spread awareness and contribute to the progress of my country which is only possible through education. I believe that education has the power to not only eradicate poverty, corruption, unemployment, child labour and numerous evils but also inculcate humanity and compassion within people. I believe learning gives rises to creativity and creativity thus helps one to think in a better way and thus the ability to think appropriately helps on to be knowledgeable. 



Mitali Madhyani is a second year Arts student at Mumbai suburban’s Mithibai College. Mitali aspires to make a career as a Clinical Psychologist. She loves to cook, paint, dance and read. Her interests have lead to her strong belief that art besides being a stress buster is an excellent medium to express one’s ideas and emotions. Mrs Sudha Murty, Nick Vuijic, Mother Teresa are some persons whom Mitali has tremendous respect. She values all people who have contributed in the betterment of society and people all over the world. Mitali lives her values by Volunteering with various organisations. The above is her view on her Volunteering experience at VYF.

Wednesday, 1 April 2015

Welcome All !



A co-incidence, a new financial year commences in India and Vivekananda Youth Forum's Blog is created today. 

The thought of starting a blog was based on this observation: while Volunteers diligently perform their duties of teaching children, playing with them, mentoring, guiding; their own growth is often ignored, taken for granted.

Vide View is an attempt to voice thoughts, views of all the young VYF Volunteers. Following the guidance of our inspiration Swami Vivekananda, we hope to impact not only future India through children but Young India through the Volunteers.

We eagerly look forward to ideas, thoughts, words filling up this space. 

Meanwhile do check VYF's Journey, now in its 30th year of functioning here please:



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